Teens have always been seen as rebellious, unrestrained, and sometimes overtly sexual in the eyes of adults. And of course, adults seldom miss an opportunity to reprimand us for our less than innocent behaviours. Yet actual attempts to decrease teen sexual activity and pregnancies have been at best meagre, and at worst ineffective.
In a society in which sex is plastered on magazines and constantly exposed on T.V, and teachings of abstinence at school simply aren’t convincing enough—are teenagers really at total fault for being sexually active?
In general, the idea of teen sex is unsettling to adults. It certainly does not paint a picture of responsibility and safety. Add in the statistic of rising numbers of teenagers engaging in sex, and it becomes understandable that adults have difficulty placing trust in us.
After all, many teens do have sex for not-so-great reasons—to experiment, to be accepted, and to boost their self-esteems are only a few examples. Given these points, it is easy to assume that we teenagers are liable for our own recklessness. But are we, really?
Studies from York University and the University of Wisconsin reveal that teens who are more likely to engage in sexual activities at an earlier age had lower self-esteem, poorer relationships with their parents and were more exposed to adult media content, as compared to their peers. Something else many sexually premature teens share? Growing up in an environment that is less open about the issue of teen sex itself.
Notice that most of these underlying factors are external and not entirely controlled by the teens themselves. After all, a distant relationship between a teen and his/her parents can lead to the teen feeling neglected and isolated. The young individual may start looking for stability, comfort and acceptance elsewhere—and being naive and impressionable, the teen can often fall into the wrong crowd. Seeking approval, the person can make mistakes and poor decisions he/she is not ready for, including that involving sex.
Teen sex is not a simple black-and-white issue in which one side is at fault for everything. It is a complex and sensitive issue, so much so that some people deem it to be a lost cause.
It is not. It feels like a losing battle because society is not tackling it with the right tools. On the education level, hammering abstinence into the minds of youth has been done for years with little positive results to show for it. A recent Statistics Canada study showed that Canadian teens have lower rates of sexual activity compared to their American counterparts, and attributes the differences to each country’s sex education curriculums.
While teenagers in Canada were given more information about sex and pregnancy, including emphasis on practicing safe sex, most American teens were told that abstinence is the only way to go. Ironically, these celibate lessons have led to riskier sexual behaviours.
How to account for this? Perhaps many teens just tune out when adults start preaching the benefits of abstinence. However, when provided with information in way that is acceptable to the young mind, teens are capable of making better personal choices, leading to better personal health.
At the end of the day, it is the teenager’s decision to have sex. But there are a multitude of factors that drive that teenager to do what he or she does, especially if he/she is not ready for it. A fractured household, a lack of love and comfort in a teen’s life can send the person searching in the wrong places; the media certainly doesn’t discourage promiscuity. So the next time somebody wants to cut the blame pie for rising trends of teen sex, you can be sure there will be more to share.

